5 Ways to Spice Up the Bedroom With a Strap On

5 Ways to Spice Up the Bedroom With a Strap On

IT’S the perfect way to spice up the bedroom for any couple. Learn how to add a strap on to your sex nights here.

Looking for new ways to spice up the bedroom? How about a strap on?

Experts associate sex with a healthier and happier relationship. Sex can not only give you a leg up in a long-term relationship. Sex can also benefit the individual, from physical fitness to enhanced brain function.

However, the frequency and quality of sex can drop due to various reasons. Some individuals experience physical limitations. Others feel that their sex life lacks excitement.

If you’re looking to spice things up in the bedroom, consider using a strap on. In this article, we cover how to use a one to spice up sex in five ways. Read on to discover more!

What Is a Strap On?

Sex toys are a great way to add excitement to the bedroom. One of the most popular sex toys is the strap on. This two-piece sex toy features a dildo, often a non-vibrating piece shaped like a penis.

With a harness, users can attach this to their hips. Meant for penetrative sex, you can use it for either anal or vaginal penetration. The official term for a woman using a strap on with a man is pegging.

Using a strap on to peg your man can encourage power play in the bedroom. If you’ve been looking for a way to give your man more pleasure, this is the way to go. It’s a great way to target and stimulate your man’s prostate.

Prostate orgasms are often dry. However, they can help your partner experience multiple orgasms, as women do.

How to Bring It up

Bringing a strap on to the bedroom can be fun and kinky. However, it can be difficult to introduce sex toys for the first time. Your partner might be a bit hesitant.

Before you bring it up with your partner, prepare yourself for rejection. Not all men are open to the idea. Give your man time to get used to the idea of using a strap on.

If your man is considering but hesitant about the idea, bring up its benefits. Let him know that pegging can give him more intense orgasms by stimulating his prostate.

How to Use a Strap on

Most strap ons harnesses come with an O-ring. This is a stretchy material that you can fit around the base of the dildo. Depending on where you buy from, your strap on could have a permanent or swappable O-ring.

If you have various dildo sizes, you may need to have different O-ring sizes. Ensure that that the O-ring fits snug around the dildo to prevent it from falling out. Other harnesses use a different mechanism to attach the dildo.

Vac-U-Lock systems are ideal and often required, for specialized dildos. There are also strap ons that can pleasure both you and your partner. Some straps on look like a two-sided dildo.

You can find a strap on to insert in your vagina while you penetrate your partner with the other side. This works if you want to enjoy mutual pleasure with your partner. However, when it comes to pegging, harnesses can offer more stability.

1. Choose the Right Size

When having strap on sex, a bigger size is not always better. If your man is new to anal sex, he might not enjoy the initial feeling of getting penetrated. If it’s your man’s first time, opt for a shorter length and a smaller girth.

For strap ons, you don’t have to prioritize the girth. The prostate is within four to five inches in a man’s anus. Aim to get a strap on dildo that is five to six inches long.

2. Don’t Be Afraid to Use Lube

When having strap on sex with your partner, don’t be afraid to lube up. Lube is a mandatory step before any kind of anal sex. You must never attempt anal sex without lube.

Apply a generous amount to both the dildo and anus before penetrating your partner. Inserting the dildo in your partner is often the hardest part of anal sex. Lube is essential because the anus doesn’t produce a lot of natural lubrication as vaginas do.

During the initial insertion, be patient and take your time with your partner. Rushing or skipping the lube may make the whole ordeal uncomfortable. If your partner gets hurt or feels uncomfortable, he may not want to continue.

If your partner is still hesitant about the strap on, warm him up with foreplay. You may eat your partner’s ass or apply lube and start fingering him. Ensure to use lube and not an anal desensitizer.

3. Let Him Know You’re Having Fun

When using a strap on, it’s essential to know that the wearer doesn’t receive any physical pleasure. Your partner may feel a little hesitant or nervous to try strap on sex for the first time. You can help him feel more comfortable by letting him know that you’re into it.

Your partner may feel worried that you’re not receiving any pleasure. Try dirty-talking your partner and encourage him to be vocal. Keep the mood light and ensure him that there is no judgment between you two.

4. Try Different Positions

If the missionary position doesn’t work for you, try hitting your man from behind. It’s easier to access the anus from behind. Some positions to try include the Burning Man position and the Leapfrog position.

5. Don’t Focus on the Strap On

During your first time penetrating your man, you may forget about the rest of his body. As you continue, remember to explore his body. Direct your attention throughout his entire body and not only the strap on.

Spice up the Bedroom With a Strap On Today

Here are our tips for using a strap on in the bedroom. Take the time to find the right size, use lube, experiment, and have fun!

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