Hey Parents! Here Is How You Can Improve Your Sex Life
One of the most common things for married couples, especially parents, to neglect is sex. In fact, 15% of married couples haven't even had sex in the last 12 months, which has horrible effects on relationships.
Luckily, that doesn't have to be you. With some simple tips, you can start improving your sex life today! Let's talk about how to improve your sex life as parents.
Understand Why Sex Matters
Sex is not the only part of a relationship, by any means. Nor is it what we even tend to think about when our partners come to mind. However, sex still plays a very important role in our romantic relationships.
Oxytocin is known as the "love hormone", and it is released, along with other important hormones and neurotransmitters, in great quantities during sex. This helps us feel attachment and love for our significant others, keeps our relationships exciting, and makes us value our relationship even more.
The unfortunate truth is that when sex starts to decline, other parts of the relationship tend to decline along with it. While it isn't our only motivation in our relationships, it does play a big role in trust, intimacy, and other important aspects of a relationship.
In essence, maintaining a healthy sex life makes maintaining a healthy relationship a lot easier.
Improve Your Sex Life By Experimenting
Trying out new things brings a lot of new excitement and enthusiasm into the bedroom, but it can come with a bit of anxiety or discomfort. It's very important to communicate with your partner beforehand and make sure that they are interested in trying new things with you. If they are as enthusiastic as you, then here's what you can try!
There are so many different sex positions to try, and when you've been in a relationship for a while, you can get in the groove and feel stuck with one or two that have seemed to work for you in the past.
Trying out new positions can feel awkward at first, but it's a great way to make things feel new and exciting, and you might just find something you love!
Try New Toys
Toys are an excellent way to spice things up in the bedroom, and there's no shortage of options to choose from. Talk to your partner about their interests and yours and look into some new toys like:
- Pocket pussies
- Edibles (Edible lube, underwear, condoms, etc.)
- Anal beads
Toys aren't just for masturbation. There are plenty of toys and clothes that you can bring into the bedroom to make sex more fun. You could try crotchless panties, tying each other up, and so much more. Check out our popular couples toys for some ideas!
Sex toys are meant to be enjoyed, and they are far more enjoyable when used on one another as opposed to yourself. Remember, a man should view a vibrator as his ally, not his competition.
Don't Neglect Foreplay
Sex gets boring when there's no anticipation left. If you go straight into it every time, it may begin to feel like you're just trying to get it over with.
If you or your partner feels like the foreplay is one-sided and that they don't enjoy it, talk about ways to make it more inclusive and enjoyable for both of you. This could be mutual touching, oral sex, playing sexy games, or anything else that you want. This brings us to our next point!
Play Out Fantasies
Ask your partner about their sexual fantasies and assure them that you won't judge them (and follow through on that promise). Both of you should try new things that you've always been curious about or that you've wanted to try with them.
Some people enjoy hair-pulling, spanking, dressing up, kissing, and a lot more. It's important to communicate about these things beforehand instead of blindly trying random acts on each other. Remember, this is meant for enjoyment, not to make anybody uncomfortable. Once you have that conversation, you won't have to have it again.
There are plenty of other changes that you can experiment with. Change the lighting in your room, try to have sex in a different location in the house, or try to switch up the foreplay. Small changes can make sex a lot more enjoyable.
Make Sex a Habit
Of course, you have to be in the mood to have sex, so we're not saying to make a strict schedule. However, trying to stay consistent with your sex life is a good way to become more eager on a regular basis. If you find yourself in the mood more often at night or first thing in the morning, try your best to make it a habit. There are a lot of benefits to having regular sex.
If you manage to have sex two nights in your first week, that could turn into three nights the next week and become a near-nightly routine. If you're experimenting, finding things that you and your partner like, and doing it more often, it will become a part of the day that you eagerly look forward to.
Remember, the most important tip when trying to improve your sex life is to enjoy it. Don't do anything you don't want to do, and don't try to have sex that you don't want to have. Compromise and consistency are the best ways to make sure that both partners are happy with their sex lives over the long term. Stay up to date with our latest sexy news and feel free to contact us with any questions!